I am officially on my sore way to ninja-dom, after learning how to jump to my feet from my back. Despite a sore back, aching thighs and ossified wrists, I am very, very satisfied with everything that happened today.
However, this day definitely held a new milestone for me. I've been on an incessant quest trying to reach out to people who share the same kink as I do, on a social networking website; and finally - I have been met with success! Life is good.
I also feel I should defend Internet networking here, since many people have the blatantly biased idea that social networking online is creepy, and weird. Might I say that I completely disagree. I accede that I am also biased, because the Internet has been so productive finding me new friends, but I think under certain circumstances, online networking is actually required, and makes life much much easier.
Think about kink. (Defense of S&M to come!)
While S&M is becoming more of a mainstream phenomenon (or, to be exact, simply a more frequently observed phenomenon), participants of said kink are still seen by society as "twisted" or "perverted." Despite the fact that we should be free to enjoy whatever safe, sane and consensual activity we desire (assuming that a free society is an ideal society), people still think S&M is the work of the devil. A comment I saw on Youtube under Rihanna's new song "S&M" puts my point across aptly, when an ignorant viewer said S&M stood for "Satan and Me." Bravo, mysterious troll, bravo.
Now, someone might say, "Hey, but can't necrophiles say the same thing? Shouldn't their sexuality be socially acceptable? What about those that find murder attractive?" Let me pull some John Stuart Mill utilitarianism here and parry with this reason:
Yes. People should do whatever they want as long as they are incurring no harm towards others. Having said this, I say: yes, necrophiles should definitely be allowed to do whatever they want (macabre, I know), as long as they a) do not murder anyone to reach their goals and b) do not desecrate things (this includes corpses) that do not belong to them. This applies to murder fetishists as well. Because fulfilling their sexual desires would incur a harm or injury (in some cases, irreversible damage) to others, they have no right to infringe on someone else's well-being.
Now, let's get back to S&M. Advocates of S&M play only when the situation is safe, sane and consensual. This means that both (or more) parties engaged in said activity are completely aware of what they're getting into, and usually desire it. A scene should be safe, sane and consensual - with no life-threatening situations and with complete premeditation and careful thought. There is no harm inflicted on one who is unwilling, and thus, no issue in the realm of social utility and no leeway for other people to control such activity. This is why police do not arrest kinksters for doing their thing, unless the kidnapping is real and definitely not consensual.
Wow, that was one long tangent.
My point was (now lost in the sea of words) that members of the kink community, if they are ignorant of others like them, cannot simply walk out the door and start asking friends and neighbors: "Hey, I'm into rope bondage and whips. Are you?" Thus, the Internet (or the extremely rare and fortuitous friend network) jumps in to help people of these socially "taboo" find one another and get to know each other.
The Web is an amazing thing, and completely necessary for most kinky people.
That having been said, I am proud to have found friends nearby and far away who share my interests. They can talk to me about a secret piece of me that is hidden away from the prying eyes of the public.
ps. This is a disclaimer: I am in no way certainly right. I want to be proven wrong, to be shown an enlightening side of things that I haven't seen before. And if I haven't stressed this enough, I am young. Wisdom will come with time.
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